Sheryl Sandberg once told an employee that she sounded “stupid” when she said ‘um’ a lot during a presentation. The employee, Kim Scott, took this candid remark to heart and used it as the basis for a whole new company. But what about the catalyst for this seismic change, Scott’s use of the filler word ‘um’; are filler words as bad as Sandberg suggests?
The interest in filler words goes back to Freud and his analysis of the subconscious, whilst George Mahl tied speech disfluencies to anxiety. The popular conception was that fillers, or pause fillers, can indicate nervousness and conversely that a lack of them helps us to be seen as competent or highly persuasive. Today pause fillers are even filtering into text.
Jack Grieve, a UK based dialectologist looked at the incidence of tweets starting with pause fillers in the US, whilst Muffy Siegel, a linguistics professor in the US looked at why the word ‘like’ is peppered so often into speech.
To understand our increasing reliance on verbal fillers, it is useful to break down exactly what they are. Laserna, Seig and Pennebaker provide a helpful definition.
Fillers and discourse markers: what's the difference?
Filler words in general can be classified as either filled pauses (uh, um) or discourse markers (I mean, you know, like). Filled pauses are said to indicate either speech disfluency or a covert message.
In our opening example, perhaps when Scott uttered her ‘ums’ she was giving herself a bridge to her next statement, saying there’s more to come and in effect, blocking the listener from butting in.
As for discourse markers, academics like Fox Tree call them ‘solutions to the problems of spontaneous talk’. Take ‘you know’ which could be an indicator of off the record information, or ‘like’ indicating that what’s to follow only loosely represents what the speaker actually thinks.
The suggestion, then, is that discourse markers (like filled pauses) can actually be identifiers of implicit communication, alerting the listener that there is more under the surface to be peeled away.
The most interesting thing about filled pauses and discourse markers though is their relationship to personality and age.
Laserna and colleagues’ 2014 research found that discourse markers were associated with conscientiousness.
The conscientious use discourse markers to get across their desire to share or rephrase opinions to listeners. They also found that those who were young or female (or both) would be more likely to use discourse markers with huge peaks at university age compared to later in life.
Filled pauses, however, were only linked to age with their usage decreasing over time.
The research also found that filled pauses were not, as was previously thought, a measure of anxiety but that is not to say that they won’t be perceived by others as anxiety with many studies looking at this issue.
It is useful to try to alter filled pauses to simply pauses, giving a momentary pause between points which can demonstrate greater perceived confidence, particularly when delivering presentations.
As we get older, we may naturally become more adept at utilising these pauses which may account for the decline in the use of filled pauses later in life.
As for discourse markers, as society evolves and communication changes, it would appear that we are using discourse markers as a shortcut to subtlety and nuance in conversation.
At one time meaning would be inferred through numerous words but in modern times, this may be done more rapidly with discourse markers.
To be a good communicator means being able to decode not only what is said, but what is unsaid, and that means becoming a master at your and others’ discourse markers and filled pauses, you know?
About Paul Russell
Paul Russell is co-founder and director of Luxury Academy London, For more info visit www.luxuryacademy.co.uk.
Luxury Academy is a multi-national private training company with offices in London, Delhi and Vishakhapatnam. Luxury Academy London specialise in leadership, communication and business etiquette training for companies and private clients across a wide range of sectors. Prior to founding Luxury Academy London, Paul worked in senior leadership roles across Europe, United States, Middle East and Asia. A dynamic trainer and seminar leader, Paul has designed and taught courses, workshops and seminars worldwide on a wide variety of soft skills.